My Father Disappeared, Please Help a Desperate Chassan

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My name is Refael.

I am the oldest son in a family of 11 children, 8 of whom still live at home. I am ashamed to be writing these words. My father left home. He left the country and hasn't come back. My mother is raising all my siblings alone. It is an almost impossible feat to raise such a large family on one salary, so I went out to work to help out. 

To add to the financial burden,  I am engaged to be married. My mother has no money to marry me off. Even working full time, there is no way I can pay for the wedding. The check that my kallah was given to buy jewelry for the wedding bounced. The other side wanted to call off the wedding. Can you even begin to imagine my utter embarassment, the shame of a groom who cannot afford to buy jewelry for his future wife?
Please, I am begging you to help me get married without further shame.

There is no money for even the most basic and simple wedding. We can't even put down a deposit for a hall. My father won't be at my wedding, but will there also be no food or a ring for my kallah?

My mother desperately wants to help me but she has no money to spare. Please, if your would help me I wouldn't feel so alone, so embarassed.

Please help me build a new Jewish home. 

Thank you,
Refael Rothman 
 

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$56,103 of $100,000 raised

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R. Rothman
July 2018

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